January 2012 Newsletter

February 12, 2012  |  Posted in: Newsletter   |  By:   |   0 Comments

Happy New Year Everyone! On January 23rd the Queens Chapter of the NSA met to discuss the positive and negative ways stuttering affects their everyday lives. It still amazes me to see a group of people, from different walks of life come together to support each other due to one single factor: stuttering. There are not too many places you can go to meet other PWS who “get it.” One NSA member summed it up perfectly by saying that “the meetings are a place for me to recharge my batteries and remember that I am not alone.” Another attendee mentioned that meetings were like therapy for him because he is able to vent about his frustrations regarding stuttering. It is important to remember that stuttering is a shared experience. If you are reading this and feel alone, please know that you are not! There is a stuttering support group in your area that is willing to welcome you with open arms.

As the meeting progressed, one attendee mentioned the idea of being an “inspirational person who stutters.” She mentioned that when people called her an inspiration, she felt like they were pointing out that she was not “normal.” Another attendee shared that she has always seen the phrase “inspirational person who stutters” in a positive light. She stated that “I feel that when people tell me I am an inspiration, they are acknowledging the fact that my stuttering has not held me back from pursuing my dreams.” Everyone is entitled to their own opinion so you be the judge… If someone told you that you were an inspiration to others, how would you feel about it?

Another topic mentioned at the meeting was the idea of stuttering and saying what you want to say rather than changing your words around which is also known as being a covert stutterer. At first glance, this idea may sound appealing but if you take a step back and look at the big picture, are you really handling your stuttering successfully? One PWS felt that he would rather stutter and say what he wanted to say than change his words around and not be himself. Another attendee added that sometimes when ordering in a restaurant, he simply points to what he wants instead of saying it if it’s a disfluent day. A helpful hint to remember during times of disfluency and frustration is to think back to a time when you were content with your stuttering and the affect it had on your life. I encourage you to remember the power and confidence you felt at that moment and never let it go. Embrace who you are and what you have and live life to the fullest!

Another reoccurring topic at the meetings is the idea of advertising. You may ask yourself, when is a good time to do it? I say ANYTIME! While I understand it’s not for everyone, one attendee mentioned that it was a good idea because it lets people know ahead of time and allows the listener to be accepting instead of leaving stuttering to the imagination. A PWS suggested that we spend too much time thinking about what our listener is thinking that we let our thoughts run away with themselves. He continued to say that “disfluency is not a big deal and those that are impatient do not deserve our time to begin with.”

As the meeting came to a close, we were reminded that whether we stutter or not, the world will still be the same place. Although we may feel that time is at a standstill during a block, time is still moving. We are unique and have something that’s different about us. Stuttering can be a handicap only if you let it and accepting it is a choice. I encourage you to be brave and make the choice that is right for you.

The Queens Chapter of the NSA would like to thank their sponsors Starbucks, Lasova Grill and Fat Boys Pizza of Fresh Meadows for their delicious treats at their meetings. Also, if you would like to become connected with other PWS, please visit stuttersocial.com to join an online stutter support group. Be sure to check the website for upcoming events and meetings. Also, check out our pictures from our 1st Holiday Party at Bourbon Street in Bayside, N.Y.. We hope to see you there next year. Until text time, don’t be afraid to be a fruitloop in a world of cheerios. Stay strong and stutter beautifully.

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